“YES! I THOUGHT. F*** HAPPY.
THE POINT OF LIVING ISN’T TO BE IN A PERPETUAL STATE OF FAIRY-TALE ECSTASY;
IT’S TO FIND THE MEANING OF LIFE, THE MEANING OF YOUR LIFE. AND THE POINT OF MARRIAGE, I THINK, IS TO CREATE MEANING, WITH EVER HAPPY AND SAD MEMORY, EVERY HARDSHIP OVERCOME, EVERY KIND ACT, EVERY MOMENT OF ACCEPTANCE, EVERY TRIUMPH (GORE WILL LIKELY NEVER GET TO HAVE ANOTHER WIFE WATCH HIM WIN A NOBEL PRIZE), EVERY CHILD, GRANDCHILD, PET, AND FRIEND YOU ACCUMULATE TOGETHER.”
– Rachael Combe, Elle
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Found an incredibly insightful post, well articulated, well argued, on the concept of marriage.
Elle Magazine | September 2010 Issue
Has America become too blase about divorce? Rachael Combe considers the meaning of a lifetime commitment in an age when instant gratification trumps endurance.
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Honestly, read it. It’s worth it, a captivating look at the mindsets we sometimes have going into marriage.
highlights
“…THAT IS THE ESSENCE OF MARRIAGE-A LIFETIME COMMITMENT. WITHOUT THAT, IT’S JUST LEGALLY SANCTIONED DATING.”
” ‘YOU CAN’T HAVE A FEELINGS-BASED MARRIAGE…I CALL IT A CONSUMER MARRIAGE, WHAT YOU’RE SAYING, ‘AS LONG AS MY SPOUSE IS MEETING MY NEEDS, THEN I STAY. BUT IF THE COSTS GO UP AND THE REWARDS DOWN, I BOLT. AND IF A BETTER ALTERNATIVE COMES ALONG, I’M GONE.'”
“ISN’T IT MORE PURITANICAL FOR THERE TO BE SO MANY ACTS OVER WHICH YOU COULD PUNISH OR ABANDON YOUR SPOUSE…AND SO FEW FOR WHICH YOU MIGHT FORGIVE HIM?”
Read the entire article here.
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What’s your thoughts on marriage these days?
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